i keep seeing people on my dash swearing off “slut shaming” and i wish you guys would stop using that term, it’s not a good term, it doesn’t mean anything, it’s misleading, it sounds ridiculous, there’s no such thing as a slut, it’s fictional, it’s used by misogynists to hurt women and you can reclaim words, of course, but reclaim them for yourself don’t slap that term on the back of the feminist movement and just assume every woman is okay with being called that and don’t assume every woman has the same experiences with sexual exploitation
and there are double standards we all know and live with them every single day, being a woman means you get shamed for having sex, enjoying sex, living inside of a body, walking out of your house, breathing, so on… so forth, women are policed regardless there’s no such thing as a “slut” and a “non slut” there are women and the whole “slut walk/pride/shaming” thing reinforces the dichotomies feminism works to destroy, these things and situations are the opposite of intersectional all women can’t participate in these activities without not only facing sexism but also racism, if you latch onto these words and movements you’re denying a history of exploitation women of color have faced and continue to face, you think it’s “empowering” but it isn’t, it’s the opposite.
and half the time people talk about “slut shaming” it’s about clothing? or lack of clothing? not sex? so is slut shaming about clothing or liking sex because i’m confused, do people slut shame women who like sex or do people slut shame women for showing off their shoulders and bra straps, you’re calling them a slut because of what they wear? aren’t you playing into the same exact system you’re trying to take down, aren’t you sexualizing that unwilling woman the same way everyone else does
"slut shaming" isn’t about shaming sluts, it’s about misogyny it’s about shutting women down it’s about hating women that’s what it is, it’s the hatred of women, what you wear doesn’t make you a slut, how much sex you have doesn’t make you a slut and no matter how hard you try to reclaim the word "slut" it will still be used against you.